How to Stop Saying "I don't know"

I used to be the queen of "I don't know."

I was terrible at making decisions.

I would watch videos or read articles, always looking outside myself for the next thing to tell me what to do. Now, when it comes to how I should live, I don't readily know all the answers, but I trust deep down that I have them.

And why shouldn't we trust ourselves?

Think about it.

You have been with yourself, been with your body, more than anyone on the planet. That surplus of knowledge is stored inside you. Most of that knowledge you don't need in your conscious day to day awareness, but that doesn't mean it's not there.

If my repressed memories have taught me anything, it's that nothing in our lives – big nor small – is truly gone.

So the next time you're feeling stuck – maybe you're feeling like "I don't know what I want to do with my life" or "I don't know how to love myself" or even something small like "I don't know what to eat." Instead of first turning to your friend or partner for the answer, turn to yourself.

Connect to your body. The one that has the answers. That can look like:

• taking slow deep breaths for several minutes in silence

• walking around the block to ambient music

• laying on the floor with one hand on your heart, one hand on your gut.

Literally tell yourself out loud or in your head "I trust I have the answer" and pose the problem as a question.

"What should I be doing with life?"

The answer might not come to you right away, but the more that you let go of expectations and trust, the easier it will reveal itself.

If you do this a number of times and think "I still just don't know!"

I challenge you that maybe you do know ...

Maybe you just don't like the answer.