Will you marry me?

Lilly Scheibelhut
Jun 23, 2025
1 min read

There was a point in my life recently where I never wanted to marry.

I couldn't fathom being with one person for the rest of my life. I hated compromise. I feared hard conversations. I didn't want to deal with my problems, so I chased distractions.

I firmly believed I could have everything I wanted without commitment.

It wasn't true.

Over the past year and a half, I've learned the true joys of being in a committed relationship. That compromise is not a sacrifice, but a choice of love. That when I share my feelings, it brings us closer. And that committing myself to one person is not 'impossible for me' but rather an essential part of who I am.

And the only one that could have taught me that lesson is Paul.

My partner.

My best friend.

And now my fiancé.

This past Saturday on a hike near Denver <3

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