The "Let Them Theory"

Your mom's upset that you're not spending the holidays at her house. "Let her."

Your partner doesn't want to do the 5k with you. "Let him."

Your friends go out to lunch and don't invite you. "Let them."

If you haven't heard, this is the title of Mel Robbins' new book: The Let Them Theory. I think the concept is extraordinary especially now around the holidays. And it's simple.

Let people be who they are.

Let your mom get upset, let your partner do what he wants, let your friends get together without you.

Once you clearly express your needs, let people show you if they're willing to change. And maybe they don't have the capacity to change ... that's when you have to "let me."

Let me take care of my mental health.

Let me take care of my physical health.

Let me experience grief.

Your time and energy are two of your most precious resources as a human. When you give them to things outside of your control (anything that's not your own thoughts/actions/feelings), that's a losing battle. You're giving away precious resources.

It's easier said than done but as the feelings of frustration or anger rise, remind yourself ... let them and let me.

If you want to learn more about her book and the theory, check out her podcast episode here. I highly recommend it.