Is desire love?

Lilly Scheibelhut
Sep 28, 2025
1 min read

It's a question I asked myself recently.

What is desire?

An intense attraction.

An irresistible pull toward something you don't have.

A wanting so deep it feels as if your very existence would crumble without it.

"It's fate."

"It's something you can't control."

– The lies addicts tell themselves are endless.

Desire, in and of itself, is neutral.

But put into the right heart, it's a drug.

A tool for using others to get what one really wants – power ... love.

So no, desire is not love.

But to the unaware heart, it feels like it.

One can easily lie to oneself it is.

But here's the difference.

Love is not a wanting. It's a giving.

Where desire narrows attention, love expands.

True love is unconditional, wrapping it's warm embrace in all those near and far.

It's an opening.

In love, one pours oneself, but is never empty.

As long as the lover loves oneself first.

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