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The Benefits of a Stable Self

  • Writer: Lilly Scheibelhut
    Lilly Scheibelhut
  • Nov 17, 2024
  • 1 min read

Updated: Nov 24, 2024


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I've been sober again for a few weeks now; I feel overwhelmed.


There's so much to do in a day ... so much I want to accomplish.


Writing my memoir.

Promoting the blog.

Building my social media following.

Designing to make money.

Advocating against CSA.


Not to mention friends, family, taking care of my physical and mental health ...

it's enough to make my head spin.


Sobriety doesn't get rid of the challenges.

What it does do is give me the strength and composure to tackle them.


Without the highs/lows of drugs and alcohol, my body reaches a type of homeostasis that produces a more stable self. Sure, I can feel overwhelmed, sad, mad, frustrated, even a little hopeless at times, but what I don't feel is the paralyzing sense that I can't handle it.


I feel a trust that these "negative" emotions won't last, and through my perseverance, I will prevail.

One small step at a time.


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When there seems like little hope

Sometimes the world is a bad place. There's real heart sorrowing tragedy. Natural disasters. Life ending sicknesses. War. Shootings. Trauma. When I read the news or hear people discuss current events, it can feel scary. Like there's a real loss of safety. But I have a quick exercise for you. Right now, look around the room that you're in and notice everything that is brown. Take inventory of what each object or surface is. Go ahead take a minute and look. When you're done, read this next...

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11/24/25

The Practice of Presence

I'm sitting in my living room admiring the blooms of my newly purchased peonies. What once were tightly wrapped buds are slowly opening to feathery aromatic flowers, pink and full of life. Aufheben. The beautiful german philosophy...

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11/10/25

I had a vision of the future.

After a recent meditation, I had a vision. I say vision but really there were no visuals. (I have aphantasia.) It was more a feeling...

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my story

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